Gay man wants to get fucked but hurts too much
The side guide: a (not so) new same-sex attracted sexual position
By Oli McAuslan, updated 1 year ago in Sex and dating / Sex
While this is a piece about sides, this is not a side piece. It’s not anal with a side of finger-licking fellatio. But a side as the whole damn meal.
You’d be lying if you haven’t sat on the couch and devoured a whole bag of chips for dinner. So why judge others for enjoying the same?
Leaving the pun a-side, practicing side amusement has become popular down under. I’ll take you through the history and meaning of sides and give you some in-side-r tips on how to please one.
A side is a person who doesn’t engage in fucking or being penetrated, but instead prefers oral sex, rimming, frottage, mutual masturbation, hand jobs, and other non-penetrative activities. These sexual acts are often referred to as foreplay, side pleasurable, or outercourse. Regardless of what we call them, these practices make up as much of sex as anal does.
Like all sexuality, sides exist on a spectrum. Some sides don’t engage in penetration at all, while others may occasionally do anal, for instance, with a trusted partner.
Although the synonyms ‘side’ has only recently emerged, the practice of non
Fuck you, Collective Shout, for your assault on the arts that’s hurting us all
I never mind I’d use curse words on this website, but this warrants it.
Last week, the puritanical SWERF, TERF, anti-women’s autonomy, and anti-LGBT extremist hate group, Collective Shout, was victorious in getting Steam to remove hundreds of games that offended its members. It achieved that by putting pressure on payment processors, VISA, Mastercard, and PayPal to strength Valve, on threat of losing access to payment processing, to comply with their “moral” standards. Again, the morals of a loath group. This week, the extremist detest group, Collective Shout, has been even more successful as they’ve managed to nuke all individual games off Itch.io.
For those who include never visited, Itch.io is like Steam, but for the tiniest indie developers. The platform is a true gallery of the unfinished, experimental, artful and expression of personal creativity, and it was beloved by developers, including those that produced NSFW, adult games, precisely because it was an open platform for creativity.
Which is why Itch.io’s response to the puritanical hate mob, wielding Visa and Mastercard as their pitc
March 02, 2017
The Epidemic of
Gay LonelinessBy Michael Hobbes
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“I used to get so delighted when the meth was all gone.”
This is my companion Jeremy.
“When you acquire it,” he says, “you have to keep using it. When it’s gone, it’s like, ‘Oh good, I can go back to my life now.’ I would endure up all weekend and go to these sex parties and then perceive like shit until Wednesday. About two years ago I switched to cocaine because I could work the next day.”
Jeremy is telling me this from a hospital bed, six stories above Seattle. He won’t tell me the exact circumstances of the overdose, only that a stranger called an ambulance and he woke up here.
Jeremy is not the partner I was expecting to have this conversation with. Until a few weeks ago, I had no idea he used anything heavier than martinis. He is trim, intelligent, gluten-free, the considerate of guy who wears a perform shirt no matter what day of the week it is. The first time we met, three years ago, he asked me if I knew a good place to do CrossFit. Today, when I ask him how the hospital’s been so far, the first thing he says is that there’s no Wi-F
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2. You
The second principle is YOU. This is the one that covers off all the mental and emotional aspects such as making sure you experience safe, making sure there is consent, that you feel comfortable, that you know your own bottoming limits and desires.
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3. Rel
The ins and outs of safer, greater sex.
I’m scared of bottoming
Most gay men will contemplate bottoming at some age. However, the thought of doing it for the first time can be scary. Don’t let that put you off.
You may prefer to douche before bottoming, especially if indulging in deep arse participate like fisting or with large dicks/toys. Use plain, clean water, preferably at body temperature. Avoid using shower attachments - the water pressure can be dangerous. You can acquire douche bulbs online or from any good sex shop. Try not to go overboard and irritate the lining of your arse, as this can make you more vulnerable to STIs.
Get yourself relaxed with lots of foreplay like rimming or fingering. Some men do operate amyl nitrate (poppers) to relax the muscles around their arse but there are two major health warnings. Poppers:
- have been linked with an increased exposure of HIV transmission
- don’t mix with erection drugs appreciate Viagra and may produce a heart attack.
Deep breathing is far safer, helps you to relax and relaxes the arse too.
Find a position that suits the size, angle and curvature of your partner’s dick. Any position where your knees are bent and drawn into your chest, whethe
The ins and outs of safer, greater sex.
I’m scared of bottoming
Most gay men will contemplate bottoming at some age. However, the thought of doing it for the first time can be scary. Don’t let that put you off.
You may prefer to douche before bottoming, especially if indulging in deep arse participate like fisting or with large dicks/toys. Use plain, clean water, preferably at body temperature. Avoid using shower attachments - the water pressure can be dangerous. You can acquire douche bulbs online or from any good sex shop. Try not to go overboard and irritate the lining of your arse, as this can make you more vulnerable to STIs.
Get yourself relaxed with lots of foreplay like rimming or fingering. Some men do operate amyl nitrate (poppers) to relax the muscles around their arse but there are two major health warnings. Poppers:
- have been linked with an increased exposure of HIV transmission
- don’t mix with erection drugs appreciate Viagra and may produce a heart attack.
Deep breathing is far safer, helps you to relax and relaxes the arse too.
Find a position that suits the size, angle and curvature of your partner’s dick. Any position where your knees are bent and drawn into your chest, whethe