Things you should never say to a gay guy
Coming out can be very emotional for lesbian, gay, multi-attracted , transgender, and lgbtq+ (LGBTQ) people. It can be thrilling or provide a tremendous sense of relief, but it also carries the risk of rejection, discrimination, harassment or even physical abuse. A person who is coming out may experience a roller coaster combination of joy, horror, self-confidence, vulnerability, self-acceptance or anxiety.
For a straight person, it isn’t necessarily any easier. Even unbent people who back LGBTQ equality may still be shocked or feel awkward when their family member, friend or coworker pulls them aside to tell, “I’m gay” or “I’m trans.” They may not understand how to react. They may also be afraid of making the situation uncomfortable or saying something they might regret.
Everyone’s experience is different, so there’s no script to follow when someone comes out to you. But if you’re respectful, polite and patient, you can avoid or minimize any achievable tension or embarrassment by remembering the following guidelines:
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Listen to what he, she, or they hold to say and let them arrange the tone of the conversation. Listening will show that you respect them and help put them at e5 Highly Inappropriate & Revolting Things You Should Not Say To Your Lgbtq+ Friends & Co-WorkersThose who don’t understand homosexuality are often critical, judgemnetal and insensitive towards queer people. However, even the most supportive friends and colleagues can be inappropriate with their words too. Whether you mean well or are simply trying to know your gay friends greater, there is a right way to put across your questions to lgbtq+ people. © Lloyd-Levitan Productions We own all been in one of those awkward situations where we have asked an inappropriate question or said something completely uncomfortable to the gay men in our life. Although it's probably not unused for them since they hear these things too often from their family, relatives and friends, we could work on it and be more considerate about how we state things. © Not a Genuine Company Productions Here are 5 things your gay friends and colleagues are sick of hearing and things you should refrain from uttering at all price. Because, you love them: Table of Contents 1. When Did You Turn Gay?© Amazon Prime No one just 'turns' gay and you should know better than that. Instead, one c THINGS NOT TO SAY TO QUEER PEOPLENOTE: These were compiled directly from followers on my Instagram. If these do not resonate with you and you are comfortable being asked these things, that’s great! But I offer a gentle reminder that just because you are comfortable answering these questions does NOT mean that everyone else should also be. Having the emotional space & grounding & energy to address these questions is a privilege that not everyone holds. Though I personally am comfortable answering many of these, my comfort and personal privilege of energy & grounding does not mean that people should ask these questions, nor does it denote that all trans people must answer them! For Things NOT to say to Trans People, visit this page. And without further ado, Things NOT to state to Queer People–
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