Things you should never say to a gay guy

Coming out can be very emotional for lesbian, gay, multi-attracted , transgender, and lgbtq+ (LGBTQ) people. It can be thrilling or provide a tremendous sense of relief, but it also carries the risk of rejection, discrimination, harassment or even physical abuse. A person who is coming out may experience a roller coaster combination of joy, horror, self-confidence, vulnerability, self-acceptance or anxiety.

For a straight person, it isn’t necessarily any easier. Even unbent people who back LGBTQ equality may still be shocked or feel awkward when their family member, friend or coworker pulls them aside to tell, “I’m gay” or “I’m trans.” They may not understand how to react. They may also be afraid of making the situation uncomfortable or saying something they might regret.

Everyone’s experience is different, so there’s no script to follow when someone comes out to you. But if you’re respectful, polite and patient, you can avoid or minimize any achievable tension or embarrassment by remembering the following guidelines:

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Listen to what he, she, or they hold to say and let them arrange the tone of the conversation. Listening will show that you respect them and help put them at e

5 Highly Inappropriate & Revolting Things You Should Not Say To Your Lgbtq+ Friends & Co-Workers

Those who don’t understand homosexuality are often critical, judgemnetal and insensitive towards queer people. However, even the most supportive friends and colleagues can be inappropriate with their words too. 

Whether you mean well or are simply trying to know your gay friends greater, there is a right way to put across your questions to lgbtq+ people. 

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We own all been in one of those awkward situations where we have asked an inappropriate question or said something completely uncomfortable to the gay men in our life. Although it's probably not unused for them since they hear these things too often from their family, relatives and friends, we could work on it and be more considerate about how we state things. 

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Here are 5 things your gay friends and colleagues are sick of hearing and things you should refrain from uttering at all price. Because, you love them:    

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1. When Did You Turn Gay?

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No one just 'turns' gay and you should know better than that. 

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THINGS NOT TO SAY TO QUEER PEOPLE

NOTE: These were compiled directly from followers on my Instagram. If these do not resonate with you and you are comfortable being asked these things, that’s great!

But I offer a gentle reminder that just because you are comfortable answering these questions does NOT mean that everyone else should also be.

Having the emotional space & grounding & energy to address these questions is a privilege that not everyone holds. Though I personally am comfortable answering many of these, my comfort and personal privilege of energy & grounding does not mean that people should ask these questions, nor does it denote that all trans people must answer them!

For Things NOT to say to Trans People, visit this page.

And without further ado, Things NOT to state to Queer People–

  1. “IT’S JUST A PHASE!”, “YOU’RE MAKING THIS UP!”, “THIS IS JUST A TREND!”
    Being Gay is almost never a phase. People are not gay or trans or bi because ”it’s cool.” Being LGBTQ+ in this world is often very difficult and many homosexual folks I know spent years trying desperately to be straight or cis to avoid the pain and discrimination we life. We do

    LGBTQIA+ Slurs and Slang

TermContextual noteTime/Region References
ace queen1970s term meaning “great queen”. Prison slang for a male who wears a more “feminine” watch i.e. shaved legs, plucked eyebrows. May be described as part of incarcerated homosexual culture. Should not be muddled with the more widely-used term "ace," a shortening of "asexual." See "asexual." UK, USA, 1970s Mosca de Colores – Gay Dictionary
alphabet peopleOffensive contemporary term for Diverse people, often used by right-wing people reacting to perceived advancements in Gay people's rights. 2020s- Green's Dictionary of Slang - https://greensdictofslang.com/
bathroom queen

bog queen

Gay slang expression for people who frequent public toilets looking for sexual encounters.

Synonyms: Bathsheba (composition between bathroom and Sheba to produce a name reminiscent of the Queen of Sheba), Ghost (50s, ghost, because they wander the corridors of the bathroom).

USA, UK Mosca de Colores – Gay Dictionary
batting for the other teamA euphemistic phrase indicating that someone (of any gender) is same-sex attracted. This phrase is not a slur or especially revolting, and is
things you should never say to a gay guy

14 Things You Should Never Say To A Male lover Man

I know you don't mean to be insulting. I know you're just trying to connect with me. But even if I'm a little stereotypical, I'm not just a stereotype churned out of the factory of Sex and the City's tokenism. And if you really want to be friends, I would appreciate it if you never said any of the following:

1. "I have the ideal guy for you. He's so cute!"

We just met. You literally recognize nothing about me except that I'm gay. And let's be real, your friend is probably not actually that cute. You know that stereotype about gay men having impossibly high standards? It's not completely wrong.

2. "Gay guys love me!"

The girls who say this sort of thing are usually hot messes. Don't receive me wrong, I admire a freakum-dress-wearing, binge-drinking, big-hair-don't-care wild child as much as the next guy, but there's something a little scary about a woman who thinks of herself as the lgbtq+ equivalent of catnip.

3. "I'm like a lgbtq+ man trapped inside a woman's body."

I know you're trying to connect with me, but what does that even mean? Does that make me a straight woman trapped inside a gay man's b

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